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You dress to kill, hair perfect, outfit hip & hot, yet as you step out into the world, you notice that you go unnoticed.

You’ve heard all the savvy tips on how to attract your mate and diligently practice them only to find that even if you do get a date, they don’t call you back for a second one.

You observe a ‘plain looking’ woman surrounded by attentive men and wonder what the heck they see in her and why they are not bothering to give you any attention.

Secretly you would love to have more attention from your partner, never mind other people, but you can’t stand the idea of having to wear ‘sexy’ clothes’ or behave in ways that feel ‘degrading’ in order to elicit desire.

Deep inside, you want to be the one who turns heads, who clearly has enough interest from others that you are the one who picks and chooses, not the other way around.

Being magnetic is natural, yet something that begs to be claimed.

One of the most primal impulses that we have as human beings is the desire to connect with another human being.

This isn’t just a silly teenage behavior or a revelation of a lonely adult, it is a real and powerful mechanism of being a mammal.

And one of the most powerful impulses of mammals is to mate.

It is an instinctual response to nature itself.

Yet we humans (and our cousins the bonobos) understand that there is also something more to coming together than the impulse to propagate the species.

Interesting studies have revealed that all mammals (yes, you included) have what is called an open-circuit nervous system.

This means that we are not islands, but inter-dependent: We are completed by the presence of another mammal, especially one that had bonded with us.

In fact, we are not able to function properly when we are isolated.

So then it makes sense, if connection is so intrinsic to our survival, that we would develop the ability to attract another person.

Only now, attraction has been made into a commodity.

It is what you wear, or how you do your make-up, or what hair-style you have, or what behaviors make you ‘part of the tribe’ that determines your level of attractiveness.

Yet it doesn’t work.

It is false attraction.

What we are doing is projecting the image of what we think is attractive versus actually being attractive!

Remember the scenario above where the ‘plain woman’ is surrounded by men who barely notice your presence?

You wondered what she had that you didn’t as you deemed yourself clearly more attractive than she was?

What she has is MAGNETIC attractiveness.

The kind of attractiveness that isn’t a result of behaviors, postures, or hip outfits.

The kind of attractiveness that is embodied.

It is confident, relaxed, and extremely irresistible.

Whereas false attraction draws to itself unwanted attention and undesirable people, magnetism pulls in what is its match through its powerful magnetic field.

Being and feeling attractive are not a postured behavior, it is a reflection of how we relate to ourselves.

How do we go about generating and maintaining magnetism?

1. Recognize that it is something you are naturally born with, all mammals have the ability to attract.

2. Let go of false ideas about attraction and turn your attention towards what really matters: the quality of who you are.

3. Begin to have a deeper relationship with your own magnetic current. Your current is your aliveness. It is the vibrant pulse that animates every cell in your being, shaped by the condition of your psyche. Therefore, examining your beliefs & definitions is essential to letting go of your false attractiveness & igniting your true magnetic capacity.

4. Explore if there is any part of you that is polarized: on one hand you desire to be irresistibly desirable and on the other, you fear what will happen if you do attract attention.

5. Discover and cultivate more of what ignites you.

No one is attracted to a person who is self-loathing, postured (or false), and needy, yet a turned-on, vibrant, self-adoring and fulfilled woman is hard to ignore.

Magnetism is fascinating.

It adds color to our world and invites us to truly live from the truth that we do not have to DO anything to attract anyone.

When we live a magnetic life, we relax and trust our natural ability to bring into our life everything we desire.

By being relaxed and fulfilled, we become a fascinating mystery, because so few of us actually live like this.

It is the type of attractiveness has longevity.

We do not want to be like a cheap toy, bright & alluring initially, but unable to sustain interest for very long.

We are magnetic and remarkably fascinating creatures who deserve to play in the abundance of beautiful company that reflects back to us the deep worth we hold for ourselves.

To learn more about what it takes to live a magnetic life, I recommend starting with my book. Be sure to like this article, share it, join the Succulence Revolution, & leave your thoughts below in the comment section.


19 Comments

  1. How eloquently written, Saida! Thank you for this beautiful insight. It is SO TRUE and something I believe I was unable to grasp until I was older and had some maturity (I’m almost 50 now). When I think back on my years of struggle and pain, I have pity for my younger self and her ignorance. I hope and pray that your younger readers with grasp this important truth. You are a treasure! Namaste……..

    • Thank you for sharing your wisdom as well Trish! We all have our own unique journey, my only hope is that I can support all women to have a little more delight and wisdom as they explore their beautiful sensual selves.

  2. Thank you for this Saida! Your words added a new dimension to my Journey of learning self-compassion and kindness and as always help me see things outside the viewpoint of our social conditioning. I find I agree with Trish with regard to growing in this area with age (I’m 42). Though my goal is to see my girls surpass me in this area as they have in so many others, to my extreme pleasure.
    Thank you again for the continuous encouragement Saida.

    • Ah Daleen! How beautiful your words. I am delighted to hear that you are embodying what you wish your daughters to know for themselves.

  3. Amethyst Wyldfyre

    I love this article Saida – really powerful and empowering. I’ve gone back and forth in my life with “buying in” to the collective dream of attractiveness and dancing to the beat of my own drum. Every time I buy in – I end up broken in some way – disconnected from my personal truth and from being in right relationship. It’s not easy to be the drum dancer but at the end of the day it’s the only way that will allow me to fully embody the life I was born to live.

    I so appreciate you!

    • So gorgeous Amethyst! Imagine the global revolution when we women truly resonate with our own natural, magnetic beauty? It will be awe-inspiring!

  4. Dear wonderful and beautiful woman,
    I loved reading your article Saida, it truly “resounded” within myself, with what I learned and discovered about me, about life as I grow older and more mature ;) (hihihi for the record I am 30 ;) ).
    And I so love the comments, it is really very fulfilling to read and share experiences within a group of women. It gives me the space for this great pleasure of sharing the pain and the joy I experience in my journey and then keep going with faith, pleasure, joy and an ongoing wonder and awe.
    And also Saida something really struck me when I was reading these lines in your article about the natural human desire to connect with another human being…. I think this is a desire I am denying very strongly within myself, like in this belief “better be alone, independant and non-committed than really connect which lead to suffering”…..
    Yep I’ll keep reading your article for some days, to help me to allow myself this wonderful human desire :))
    Thanks
    With warmth, love and joy

    • Thank you for sharing Isabelle!

      Yes, I believe we have a natural evolution. We first begin as dependent humans (which is good and natural), then we strive for independence (which is also good and natural), and the next piece that some of us forget is that we are actually inter-dependent. :)

  5. Thanks for the reminder Saida! So true! I love and appreciate your tips and reminders ;-) You are a treasure!

  6. Dearest Saida, I so appreciate your beautifully expressed sentiments here: I want to echo back – “we are magnetic and remarkably fascinating creatures who deserve to play in the abundance of beautiful company that reflects back to us the deep worth we hold for ourselves.” Yes yes yes!!! I have been finding that, being dedicated to sharing these beautiful reflections, and staying dedicated to self-love, requires me to be on a journey of ever present commitment to being fully at-one with myself and saying yes and no very consciously, with deep care to those I’m present to, but with even more care for my inner self and my deepest heart. I’m so grateful to you for bringing forward these wisdoms of yours that help validate and support my journey of deepening self-love as a woman on this planet. Wishing you complete fulfillment – I imagine you already have found this within, dearest sister <3

  7. Saida Loved this article , I have just been reading and learning about the attachment process and our need to connect with a mate. So it is fantastic to come to your site and see how elegantly you have discussed this basic human need, thank you for sharing information that will led us to freedom as well as fulfillment.Thank you for teaching the truth about who we really are.

  8. Lovely Saida! Thanks for your article and your wisdom. And thanks for the many true words in the comments below. It is so wonderful to read all of your believes and gratefulness and dreams. Yes! it will be a fantastic revolution when womanity blossoms. I wish we all will take part.

    The article made me think of the common experience many women have, when they fall in love and let go and are beings full of pleasure and beautiful energy, then suddenly they attracts more men than they have done for a long time. More than they can overcome, but very okay at the same time.

    Finding this energy in your self and feeling in love for no reason or specific person is I guess a part of knowing and learning about your magnetism. Though it’s very nice with some male influence it’s good to hold the inner glow for yourself too. I think.

    Kisses for everyone here.

  9. adore yourself and the world will adore you. Thx for reminding us always that we’re responsible for our happiness and that we’ve got the key, we’re sitting at the driver’s seat, there’s no Prince Charming to wait for and no time to waste to be happy…

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