Are you feel tired of being alone?
Do you wonder where all the delicious, conscious partners have gone to?
When you see another woman madly in love and being adored by her partner, does your heart squeeze painfully as you hide your own desperate need to be met?
How many more unfulfilling and uninspiring dates will you need to go on before you finally ‘strike gold’?
May be you have found someone you really enjoy, but have no clue how to ‘keep them interested’?
Whatever your relationship issues are, there is one fundamental flaw in how most women approach partnership:
We behave like drive-thru.
The following is a story told by the Wintu Tribal Elders of California:
How The Female Eagle Chooses Her Mate
When it comes time for the female Eagle to choose her mate, she prepares herself for many suitors. And many come before her.
She looks them over quite well and then picks one to fly with for awhile.
If she likes the way he flies she finds a small stick, picks it up and flies high with it. At some point she will drop the stick to see if the male can catch it.
If he does, then she finds a larger stick and flies with it much higher this time.
Each time the male catches the sticks, she continues to pick up larger and larger sticks. When she finds the largest, heaviest stick that she herself can carry, the stick is at this point almost the size of a small log! But she can still fly very high with this large stick.
At any time in this process, if the male fails to catch the stick, she flies away from him as her signal that the test is now over. She begins her search all over again.
And when she again finds a male she is interested in, she starts testing him in the exact same way. And she will continue this “testing” until she finds the male Eagle who can catch all the sticks.
And when she does, she chooses him, and will mate with him for life.
One of the reasons for this test is that at some point they will build a nest together high up and will then have their Eaglettes. When the babies begin to learn to fly, they sometimes fall instead. It is then that the male must catch his young. And he does!
Women, how well do you “test” your suitors before you allow them into your life?
This story speaks to how we have forgotten that we are actually gourmet, worthy of respect, devotion, and adoration.
Instead, we behave like drive-thru, allowing ourselves to bargain for love.
We don’t bother to see if the person is actually worthy of receive our love, our beauty, and our deepest, most delicious delights.
Why do we do this?
In part, relationship has been cheapened. Initially, we consider our virginity a disease, attempting to get rid of it as quickly as possible.
Then, wanting to come across as the hottest sex goddess in town, we shush our yearning hearts and gift our bodies to unworthy recipients.
We know they are unworthy because we are left feeling empty and unmet.
To compound things, we have our biological clocks ticking and literally making us ‘mad’. Mad enough to get pregnant with someone with whom we really would rather NOT share the rest of our life with.
Finally, we are left in sexless and loveless marriages, where we feel ugly, unloved, and barren of any enthusiasm for beauty and adventure.
But there is a solution to this downward spiral.
To attract a gourmet relationship, we must first be willing to be gourmet!
This means that we fill our own plates first! We do this by deepening and enriching our primary relationship with ourselves, becoming our own best friend, lover, and partner.
When we have a full gourmet plate and we are clear on what is non-negotiable for us, we can step confidently into the world of dating.
In fact, because we are so satisfied with our own connection with ourselves, we are no longer behaving like a woman in desperate need.
Neediness is unattractive.
It implies that we are empty and that someone else must do the filling. Any healthy person would shy away from this knowing that it is impossible to fill an empty hole.
When we are whole, we no longer look for our better half. We have already found it!
Instead, we become irresistible, magnetic, and someone worthy of wooing.
Gourmet relationship is one where two whole and sovereign people come together for the sake of delighting in each other, for the joy of sharing the adventure of life, and for the celebration of their uniqueness.
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